I've heard many times that you're not supposed to ask the "typical questions" when flirting, and that it can make you seem boring to the girl.
I disagree. I think it's weird if you don't mix some "ordinary" questions in when you're getting to know a girl. Sure, you need to have high energy, and hit some emotional high points. But you also need some ordinary "getting to know you" talk.
What are the so-called "boring questions"?
What's your occupation?
Are you in school?
How old are your children?
How long have you lived here?
Of course you don't want to ask question after question like this, or she'll feel like she's on a job interview. But there's a right way to go about asking these questions and still flirt well.
Here's the key principle:
ORDINARY QUESTION FLIRTING PRINCIPLE: When you ask an "ordinary question", make sure you PLAY with her response.
I often query a girl about her schooling or work upon first meeting her.
Then I get creative with her reply.
Here's an example:
If she says she's studying radiology, I'll say "Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you'd totally help me out. You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?"
Notice how the response is framed so she is willing to do your bidding. This is a useful frame. And the way it's delivered, she's usually more than willing to play along. That's got to be a good thing, right?
This approach will work almost every time. And it's fun.
Try it. The next time you're talking with an attractive woman you've just met, give it a shot. And don't restrict yourself just to women you're attracted to.
Use it with store clerks, your aunts at the family reunion, little old ladies. They all love it!
Tyler Paxon teaches men how to flirt better with women. And he teaches women how to flirt better with men. Discover your flirting IQ with his free flirting assessment at http://how2flirt.com
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