There is no doubt that an open communication channel is the key for a successful relationship. The question in most cases however is how to get your husband to speak. Women talk about things much more openly than men. So if you are not getting what you want, you might want to consider making some changes.
When is most responsive?
Men can sometimes feel like they are under pressure and close down so it's important to approach them when they are relaxed and responsive. Try to see when this happens look to add any inquiries you might have into an existing conversation. Make it look natural and don't press it.
Pick the right time
You don't want to blow a chance just because you lost your patience. Be sensitive to when it is a good time to talk and be careful not to approach when your partner is tired or preoccupied.
Provide a personal example
For him to reveal, you've got to be revealing. Feel free to share your past experiences (though I wouldn't suggest talking about your past relationships)...your favorite music or movies...your hopes and dreams...your fears or fantasies. After a while, he'll do the same with you.
Don't dredge up the past
When you choose a topic to open up yourself, make sure it is not something that you had discussed many times before. This might cause him to loose patience and will eventually hurt your cause.
Don't criticize his ideas
If your man is finally opening up, allow him to say whatever he feels. If he's got what you'd call a "wacky idea," try to avoid picking it apart. A lot of people, especially men, have "big dreams" that they probably know are just that: dreams...like learning how to fly or living in another country. In reality, there's no harm in dreaming.
Be a good listener
Now that he's talking, just listen. Don't turn on the television or answer a phone call when he is opening up. Instead of interrupting or interjecting, give him a chance to put things in his own words. It can be hard to keep your mouth shut, sometimes. But being a good listener speaks volumes.
We all have similar challenges and are here to support each other. Good luck!
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